First: when I send you a mail it is not for you to decide that your answer to a mail may be public. That is a form of abuse.
Second: you agree that the response I got was abusive. While I agree that the word "complete idiot" was not used literally, it is quite obvious that his hostile actions, his disparaging use of English Wikipedia standards, the notion that I am not a native of an English speaking nation is exactly that... intended to make me feel inferior. FYI I have lived in the UK for several years, my colleagues at a UK government organisation indicated that my English was better than theirs.
Third: by threatening with sanctions, you victimise the victim. This guy has not even bothered to add information to his user profile and he is well versed in Wikipedia lore so he got away with it. By insisting that I should make an edit you are abusive.
Fourth: as I indicated before, for me this is about how we treat each other. We do treat each other with hostility. Jura1's comment is a perfect example. He had the audacity to tell me not to edit the [https://tools.wmflabs.org/reasonator/?&q=3773745 governors of Vermont]. I am done with them and, as you can see they are much better as a result.
Fifth: I was recently told that I use tools. I am unapologetic about that. It is what made Wikidata possible in the first place. However, when you analyse my work, you will notice that I have always done a substantial amount of manual edits. When I add awards, I often add missing people to complete the list of people who won the award (it is why my watch list is unmanageable). When I added Date of Deaths, I added information like "educated at" "employed at" to fill up not only the data on the person involved but also to the persons they are connected to in that fashion. The objective has always been to enrich the data and make it more informative.
Sixth: if there is one person who documents the work that he does, it is me. I [https://ultimategerardm.blogspot.nl/ blog about everything Wiki] for over many years now. So you could be aware of how I work and what I have learned in the progress.
Finally: for me this has been about how we deal with each other. It can be characterised as abusive, not listening to the arguments of others and then thinking that quit is the same as consensus. When you are interested I will send you PRIVATELY a few other examples of abuse I encountered (you can let me know by mail). Thanks,